DOMESTIC VIOLENCE - FRIENDS & NEIGHBORS

One of the most common dynamics of domestic violence is that the abusers will isolate the victims from their friends and families. This plays into their ability to control the victim. The victims of domestic violence must know that they have someone that they can turn to for help if they are ever going to be willing to leave and seek help.

Stay in contact with the victim, they may not be calling you because they are not allowed to by the abuser. Call at times when the abuser is not likely to be home.

Call the police if you hear sounds of a struggle or believe that someone may be in danger. The police will investigate and take appropriate actions to keep the victim safe. There is no such thing as "bothering the police." If you are not sure if the police are needed take the "better safe than sorry" attitude. If there is no problem the police will simply leave the area.

Don't take the attitude of "if they needed or wanted help they would call the police themselves!" There are many dynamics involved that may not allow the victim to leave, such as fear of further violence or financial issues. Intervention by the criminal justice system needed before they are willing to make a stand.